First Love (Relationships part V)

I recently finished the latest season of “Ugly Betty” online (since I prefer to watch everything online now lol) and what struck me the most was the cliche, “you can never forget your first love” or “you will always love your first” or some other variation of it.  The special place for the first motorcycle compared to other succeeding ones thereafter was used as an analogy to relationships and previous ex’s (boyfriends in this case).

[Spoiler Alert] The end result is that Betty’s relationship with Matt is pretty much over by the one question that everyone hates to ask/be asked and answer/afraid to hear the answer to – “Do you still love him”, or her if you’re the girl.  Any sort of hesitation (or an unconvincing response) is a dead giveaway of what the dreaded answer is.  This is pretty typical of the media writers with their potrayal of relationships that I think is pretty dumb and misleading.

To anyone who believes that cliche regarding your first love, I’d have to strongly disagree with you and and your camp.  Not because of personal experience alone (not a cheap shot at previous ex’s by the way) but just observing and taking mental notes throughout the years.

I think the better idea that is more realistic would be that its hard to get over your first love.  Especially if there was a physical attachment involved, that would be one of the reasons to hold on even longer.  Having given up something physically for the first time for a sincere young woman is probably reason enough to hold on to wishful thinking.

I’m saying this on behalf of sincere guys, the attitude towards anything really is like a big thunderstorm.  The rain will come and flood things but soon after while the sun shines the rain will dry up.  Basically the idea behind the analogy is that anything that is of big concern will linger around but it won’t affect us in a way that would affect the opposite sex.  Women are like a blizzard in the winter – the snow can stick around for weeks especially if its piled up on specific spots.  Women can be reminded by anything of a previous long relationship just like those spots of piled on snow can remind you it snowed not too long ago even tho the roads may be clear of snow.

To think that you can never forget or you will always have a spot for your first love is just a myth – or maybe because I’m a guy I think it’s a myth.  But honestly, if you were to take a poll on this issue… how many do you think will actually agree with the cliche?  It may make for good drama on television but for anyone to actually identify with this is silly.